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    We have experienced first hand the devastation to young people and their Famlies of Drug Addiction (Heroin) Our Son is in recovery and we are hoping for the best.

    Wondering has anyone on the Forum had a similar experience.To get the proper help and support in Dublin is very difficult.

    Hoping this thread could be a source of information and support to others in a similar situation.

    Jimmymac

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    Originally posted by Jimmymac View Post
    We have experienced first hand the devastation to young people and their Famlies of Drug Addiction (Heroin) Our Son is in recovery and we are hoping for the best.

    Wondering has anyone on the Forum had a similar experience.To get the proper help and support in Dublin is very difficult.

    Hoping this thread could be a source of information and support to others in a similar situation.

    Jimmymac
    The first and best support he can have is yourself and Linda Jimmy. I think like most things here sometimes the services are better down the country for some reason. Will see what I can find out.

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    • #3
      Jimmy I really feel for u....it must be a very worrying time for all concerned...The drug addiction in my family was alcohol.....and as many will know it can have a very devasting effect on family life....The person in my life got so much help...but didnt really want it....as I have said here before the person who is addicted has to really want to get off the stuff....Ur son is half way there and please God he will recover....I have known many a drug addict who has made it....A friend of mine whose daughter was addicted....there was absolutely no hope for her....with the help of the Rutland Centre and the fantastic help of family and friends she came through and is sober now for over a year.....I wish ur son the very best of luck....it is not an easy road....but there is hope at the end of the tunnell....x
      It is what it is.

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      • #4
        Dear Jimmy and Linda, My heartfelt wishes go out to all of you and having personally met your Lad, I can say that he is a remarkable loveable young Man, Be proud of yourselves as you are both very very good parent's. Pg with your help and guidence he will come out much stronger at the other end ......God Bless xxxx Hugs xxxx Deirdre xxx

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        • #5
          Dear Jimmy and Linda,

          I am so sorry to hear of your problem.

          Try to be as understanding as you can with the boy. The people who traffic in drugs are the lowest of the low and anybody can fall victim to them.

          For what if's worth; You have many friends here who share your pain!

          God Bless the three of you.

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          • #6
            hi jimmy! i know its not easy to manage this but please be always present for him the best therapy is the presence and the help of his dad and his mum. go ahead son...what after the loooong night...the light of a neeew day.
            Last edited by khaleduz; 27-10-2009, 10:07 PM.

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            • #7
              Thanks lads n lassies for all your kind comments

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              • #8
                Jimmymac, you son has a huge huge advantage....a loving supportive family. I worried a lot over my son, he did drugs at one stage going thro highschool and im ashamed to admit..i didnt realize it till he himself came and told me one day...he cleaned him self off soon as he left that school and moved to college and im very thankful to say that hes moved on now with his life...his drug now is music!!

                two of his friends werent as lucky in being able to stop and continued until a year or two ago... and needed help with the process...one kid got dumped by the parents who figured...well its his problem....the other kid went into rehab with total support from his family during the process and afterwards....and Jimmie it was a total uphill battle for the kids...Im happy to say they were both successful and now dont even smoke a cigarette.

                I later discovered the drugs were made available to the kids...get this...by a teacher in the school who was dealing dope and could get the kids anything they wanted.......do you think there were any repercussions??? nope he eventually moved on to teach at another school....nice eh..

                Good luck and i know things will work out for you guys.!! I believe addiction affects everyone in the family and I never hid my sons problem...because talking about it helped me...and helped others ..i found most people wanted to hide it and do the head in the sand thing and pretend everything was fine in their lives..and believe me that method doesnt work .....

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                • #9
                  Dear parents ,just in case you learn one day that your child is on drugs as i did many years ago .I would like to share with you the many emotions that you go through ,and in doing so someone might just get some little tip or comfort out of what i have to say .First reaction is anger and you want to throttle them ,then the guilt come along you walk the floor at night wondering where you went wrong .did you show the others more effection than the rest .were you too strict were you not strict enough ,how in the name of God did you not see it before it got to this stage .These are the thoughts that goes through everyones head ,then there is the shame of it you let the neighbour across the road who has all swans get under your skin .Your whole waking moments are taking up with all these thoughts ,the blaming yourself has you in a tizzy and people that offer advice and are not in your situation wreck your head ,throw him ouy ,i wouldn't have him in the house ,easy to say but you have watched them take their first step and say their first word ,you brought them to school on their first day and all the many other things you did together very hard to turn your back on all that ,you may have to but it ain't easy
                  If i had to face it all again ther are a few things i would do different .I would sit down with me wife and make sure we were singing out of the same hymem sheet .i would try and keep meself and the wife as healthy as possible ,we joined a group for us ,cause not only the addict is effected ,it touches the whole family ,i wouldn't mind what people say you always have enough good friends to show a bit of kindness and believe me you need buckets of it .and though this can be very hard try to remember if you can look past the drugs you will see your child ,they are still there and believe it or not they love you they may not love themselves but they will always love you
                  Ionce asked a group of lads who were recovering addicts what was the thing they they regreted most ,and they all gave me the same answer THEY WERE SO SORRY THE BROKE THEIR MOTHERS HEARTS .i asked my own son why he started he was such a good sports man and we were always together ,he told me he koved me and ma and his brothers it had nothing to do with us it was just him .HE EXPERIMENTED IN SCHOOL AND HE GOT HOOKED .Parents dont get complacent and think because your child does sport they will be safe ,while taking part in sport is a great help it is not a garauntee.They reason i said about keeping healthy is ,i didn't and i'm paying the price now .you don't have to stop living if this evil comes to your door ,fight it and like any fight you have to be fit in mind and body to win .and lots of parents do in the end ,

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                  • #10
                    Aw Sailor, I applaud you for being so very open and honest , I know that you are aware that my dear friend is very near the end of her day,s now with the dreaded C and like yourself when she found out that her lovely Boy was hooked on the dreaded drugs she allowed her health to go by the wayside and she bcame obsessed with the Lad and the guilt, then the kicking him out, and off course bringing him back home some day's later when she heard that he was sleeping in a burnt out car at the back of the shops ........Thank God her lad survived and he is a drugs counseller himself now he also has a lovely partner and a Baby on the way ....but whenever I see him now I see the hearbreak in his eyes and the other side of the story is that he is full of guilt and remorse .....He blames himself for his Mammys illness .....life can be so very hard ..........God Bless you Sailor ...xx D

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                    • #11
                      .HE EXPERIMENTED IN SCHOOL AND HE GOT HOOKED .Parents dont get complacent and think because your child does sport they will be safe ,while taking part in sport is a great help it is not a garauntee.They reason i said about keeping healthy is ,i didn't and i'm paying the price now .you don't have to stop living if this evil comes to your door ,fight it and like any fight you have to be fit in mind and body to win .and lots of parents do in the end ,[/QUOTE]

                      Sailor, My heart goes out to your family, Jimmy's family and all those who have had to be affected by the horror of drugs.

                      Thank you for sharing your stories and your pain and I feel sure that all of your friends will pay close attention to your advice.

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                      • #12
                        Thanks Deirdre and Bang Bang ,i'm off to coach kids today i started an academy some years ago i have kids from 7 to 20 odd and we are doing well ,i just rounded up a few like minded adults and gave it a go and it has grown and grown ,we dont have any help from any outside bodies and we do okay .I would love to see a lot more of this type of thing ,all it takes is for a few adults to get together and give it a go .If you get the kids early enough you have a chance ,and some other parent might see what you are missing .We are all great at fixing other peoples problems when we have the devil's own job with our own .You may just prevent the addiction before it starts The older kids know my story and now they are putting their time in with the small ones and trying to create a happy and safe enviorement for children to make friends and where they don't have to do something stupid to be conscidered cool ,it also helps the parents to feel that they are really doing something usefull.I could go on and on i feel so passionate about this subject ,i will try till my dying day to work in whaterver little way i can to give children a chance to avoid the clutches of the evil BASARDS who have spread so much suffering and pain among the hardworking descent people of this island .
                        We dont have to wait on the goverment to adress this problem ,they dont give a flyinf fcuk ,it's up to us to try and work together in whatever small way we can to try and keep our children safe It's the tots we have to start with ,and even if we only guided one child down the right road well would'nt it be well woth the effort.When i visit my sons grave ,i pray for all those parents and children who are touched by the horrors of drugs ,and i promise that i will do as much for kids in my area as i can to prevent their parents going through the pain that we have gone through .I dont want want to have anything to do with the dealers they will have to face their own judgement some day.It's just my idea of what we might be able to achieve no matter how helpless we may feel

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                        • #13
                          Jimmymac Hope all is going well Thinking of you and Linda its great that your son has your support understanding and Love
                          Harolds X girl

                          Sailor Thank you for sharing your experence with us nobody ever knows what will happen in there family
                          Harolds X girl
                          They are watching me

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