Here's a philosophical question, chappies. If both spouses suffer from a disease that is ... rather uncomfortable ... is it morally sound to forfeit reproduction? I'm locking horns with a priest. I keep telling him that I suffer from severe depression, and I don't want to contribute to the population of psychiatric patients. He doesn't accept it. His response is: "Have as many babies as God gives you, and He'll take care of everything." Hate to remind him, God does not run American healthcare system. More and more insurance companies drop behavioural health from their packages. I already have my hands full managing my own symptoms, plus I have to keep a close eye on my son and make sure he doesn't show any signs of ... you know ... Depression is extremely hard to diagnose and treat. It's not a bacterial infection that can be taken care of with a course of antibiotics. This bugger can make your whole life miserable. My question is, wouldn't it be selfish to have children, knowing in advance that there is a big chance they might inherit your disorder. Sometimes I feel like apologizing to my son for having given birth to him. Maybe I'm overreacting here?
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Originally posted by Lily of Ulster View PostHere's a philosophical question, chappies. If both spouses suffer from a disease that is ... rather uncomfortable ... is it morally sound to forfeit reproduction? I'm locking horns with a priest. I keep telling him that I suffer from severe depression, and I don't want to contribute to the population of psychiatric patients. He doesn't accept it. His response is: "Have as many babies as God gives you, and He'll take care of everything." Hate to remind him, God does not run American healthcare system. More and more insurance companies drop behavioural health from their packages. I already have my hands full managing my own symptoms, plus I have to keep a close eye on my son and make sure he doesn't show any signs of ... you know ... Depression is extremely hard to diagnose and treat. It's not a bacterial infection that can be taken care of with a course of antibiotics. This bugger can make your whole life miserable. My question is, wouldn't it be selfish to have children, knowing in advance that there is a big chance they might inherit your disorder. Sometimes I feel like apologizing to my son for having given birth to him. Maybe I'm overreacting here?Everything is self-evident.
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It's interesting ... I was having this conversation with me biological Da. And he said that life is generally a good thing, a gift, an opportunity. I tend to view life as an imposition, a test followed by punishment, some sort of practical joke. I guess, you can regard life as a "gift", but it doesn't specify if the gift is asked for or not. Anyway, I digress. I guess I have trouble understanding people who have serious medical conditions, and they still have children. A few years ago they showed a special on TV about a woman who kept having babies with a form of rare muscular dystrophy. They kept dying before reaching their 10th birthday. And she kept having them, because she enjoyed the experience of motherhood, even though she knew the babies were doomed. That just perplexed me. Then there was another woman who was deaf. Her husband was deaf too. All their kids were deaf. And she said that to someone who has hearing, being deaf might seem like a terrible thing, but for someone who's been deaf from birth, it's just "normal" state. I guess you can't always predict if your child is going to be healthy. Sometimes nature gives us unpleasant surprises. Genetic mutations happen out of the blue. And no, I don't believe in "master race" or anything like that. Please don't think for a moment that I encourage destruction of unhealthy individuals. One of my pals already accused me of having a Nazi mentality. But I cannot for the life of me understand people with severe dominant genetic illnesses who opt for biological parenthood, knowing that there is a very, very, very high chance that the kids will inherit the disease. We don't have control over being born, but we do have control over our own reproductive future. I really don't want to see another depressed member of my family.
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well i think life is a gift.....but everyone wouldnt agree with me...and in fact ive experienced the loss of several people i knew well due to suicide...so if i could morph back to my younger days...know then what i do now if i suffered from severe depression and had a family history of it would i have kids...not on your nelly..id be totally terrified id pass the gene on and would never risk it...
now experiencing health problems similar to my mother and her family...autoimmune disease, and knowing my daughter is showing symptoms of the same disease.....well i donno....i would not not have my daughter for anything..i love her to bits...and would lay my life on the line for her....i just hope they get me a diagnosis soon so it will help her and my grandkids..
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Originally posted by Mykidsmom View Postwell i think life is a gift.....but everyone wouldnt agree with me...and in fact ive experienced the loss of several people i knew well due to suicide...so if i could morph back to my younger days...know then what i do now if i suffered from severe depression and had a family history of it would i have kids...not on your nelly..id be totally terrified id pass the gene on and would never risk it...
now experiencing health problems similar to my mother and her family...autoimmune disease, and knowing my daughter is showing symptoms of the same disease.....well i donno....i would not not have my daughter for anything..i love her to bits...and would lay my life on the line for her....i just hope they get me a diagnosis soon so it will help her and my grandkids..
we also have the ability to be diverse....so what is the norm....there is no normHere Rex!!!...Here Rex!!!.....Wuff!!!....... Wuff!!!
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I do not suscribe to the "god will provide" idea. He never paid any of my bills etc! But Lily, what I do know is that life is about experience and the experience you had with your depression may be different to that experienced by your offspring...because they would have the benefit of your knowledge and ability to deal with it. You are playing god....while there is a probability your child may suffer with depression there is an almost equal chance they won't. Nothing is written in stone, so, if you want more kids away and start practicing, but, if you do not, make that decision based on firm facts not proability.
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Originally posted by Womblemum View PostI do not suscribe to the "god will provide" idea. He never paid any of my bills etc! But Lily, what I do know is that life is about experience and the experience you had with your depression may be different to that experienced by your offspring...because they would have the benefit of your knowledge and ability to deal with it. You are playing god....while there is a probability your child may suffer with depression there is an almost equal chance they won't. Nothing is written in stone, so, if you want more kids away and start practicing, but, if you do not, make that decision based on firm facts not proability.
He paid mine. I robbed £20 out of the collection basket in 1986. Dont feel as guilty as yed think. lol
I worry everyday about what my lads have to face in life, but feck it, my parents faced the unknown, so did I and so will my boys. Thats life. We never got any assurances coming into this world other than the fact we will surely leave it someday. You seem to have done ok despite having depression. So go forth and multiply my child.
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Originally posted by Ballinamoe View PostHe paid mine. I robbed £20 out of the collection basket in 1986. Dont feel as guilty as yed think. lol
I worry everyday about what my lads have to face in life, but feck it, my parents faced the unknown, so did I and so will my boys. Thats life. We never got any assurances coming into this world other than the fact we will surely leave it someday. You seem to have done ok despite having depression. So go forth and multiply my child.
a risk having a child, even if there are no known conditions in their family background..no-one knows what's looming on the horizon. And the thing with
depression is that there are probably many causes, not only genetic. If everyone paused to consider "what ifs" when embarking on a pregnancy, and based their decision on the worst possible scanario, no-one would ever have kids.
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Originally posted by Mykidsmom View Postwell i think life is a gift.....but everyone wouldnt agree with me...and in fact ive experienced the loss of several people i knew well due to suicide...so if i could morph back to my younger days...know then what i do now if i suffered from severe depression and had a family history of it would i have kids...not on your nelly..id be totally terrified id pass the gene on and would never risk it...
now experiencing health problems similar to my mother and her family...autoimmune disease, and knowing my daughter is showing symptoms of the same disease.....well i donno....i would not not have my daughter for anything..i love her to bits...and would lay my life on the line for her....i just hope they get me a diagnosis soon so it will help her and my grandkids..
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Originally posted by quinner View Postone of the greatest assets us humans have is the ability to learn.........but too much information, which in some situations can make our lives a misery.
we also have the ability to be diverse....so what is the norm....there is no norm
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Originally posted by KatieMorag View PostI agree....and with many of the other replies....you could say everyone takes
a risk having a child, even if there are no known conditions in their family background..no-one knows what's looming on the horizon. And the thing with
depression is that there are probably many causes, not only genetic. If everyone paused to consider "what ifs" when embarking on a pregnancy, and based their decision on the worst possible scanario, no-one would ever have kids.
As far as fear of the unknown goes, it's not just the fear of the unknown. It's the fear of the known as well. I know for a fact how expensive it is to raise kids, and it would be a major, major financial blow. And financial hardship is not something that's good for my mental state. For one, I'd need to find a better paying job, which means I'd never see my kids. My husband already works long hours, and there's no way for him to higher. Maybe, if we were more easy-going, balanced people, we'd reproduced. But financial troubles, plus parental responsibilities, on top of psychiatric issues on both sides - that's provoking fate.
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Originally posted by KatieMorag View PostI think, if i were you, I would base my decision on whether i really wanted
another child.....and how much.....rather than the moral implications....and
whether you think you'd regret it if you didn't.
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yes...and in those times gone by..i know i would not be here right now..neither would two of my kids....or willie....so our life expectancy has definitely shot up......so when you think of it..whos to say there wont be a cure in the future for many of the things we regard as being terminal or life threatening now.........we dont lol..
i think though if i was even considering another child the last person id consult about it would be a priest lol......or even discuss it with....
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