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  • Clarification re. Members names.

    There appears to be some confusion going around regarding the issue of members being addressed by their actual names in posts - I may have contributed to that confusion, so just to clarify again;

    Many regular posters know other members names eg. MKM is known to be Helen and she encourages other posters to address her as such - there is no issue there and never has been.

    Problems only arise when someone is addressed by their name in a post when they have never given their consent for that to happen.

    It's simply a matter of courtesy and shouldn't be interpreted as some new departure on the forum. It's always been there by implication - it may not have arisen before, probably because as a practice it's been observed and respected by the membership as a whole.
    Everything is self-evident.

  • #2
    Have you had complaints ....... or is this another bit of "house-keeping?"
    "Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it everywhere, misdiagnosing it, and then misapplying the wrong remedies.”

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    • #3
      read.....noted...and hopefully remembered !

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      • #4
        For the record, I did not report any of the recent posts made by DTW nor did I complain about the use of my name.

        One of the basic tenets of forum activity is to "attack the post not the poster". The use of a persona, such as Hagar or whatever, adds a little distance between the topic being discussed and the person discussing it. It moves everything into a more dispassionate, third party type exchange and as such is much less less personal and less likely to cause offence. The use of an individual's real name undermines this entirely and therefore should be avoided in contentious, heated debate. In other convivial situations such as chatting about family or social occasions the use of real names may be acceptable between friends.

        My 2c worth.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Hagar View Post
          For the record, I did not report any of the recent posts made by DTW nor did I complain about the use of my name.

          One of the basic tenets of forum activity is to "attack the post not the poster". The use of a persona, such as Hagar or whatever, adds a little distance between the topic being discussed and the person discussing it. It moves everything into a more dispassionate, third party type exchange and as such is much less less personal and less likely to cause offence. The use of an individual's real name undermines this entirely and therefore should be avoided in contentious, heated debate. In other convivial situations such as chatting about family or social occasions the use of real names may be acceptable between friends.

          My 2c worth.
          Well said Hagar.

          I have always thought that the usage of the person's real name can be between friends unless you use their username. Its true a lot of people can sign off their PM's with their real names. I have no problem with people using their real name or part of it as their username as that is their choice.
          UP THE DUBS!!!

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Hagar View Post
            For the record, I did not report any of the recent posts made by DTW nor did I complain about the use of my name.
            Thanks for that Hagar, I take my hat off to your honesty....when you could well have said nothing at all.

            One of the basic tenets of forum activity is to "attack the post not the poster".
            Indeed.....as we did recently.....we dealt with what we posted.....not the poster....I believe.

            The use of a persona, such as Hagar or whatever, adds a little distance between the topic being discussed and the person discussing it. It moves everything into a more dispassionate, third party type exchange and as such is much less less personal and less likely to cause offence.
            I agree with all of that.

            The use of an individual's real name undermines this entirely and therefore should be avoided in contentious, heated debate.
            You know and I know I used your name in a convivial manner after you said you were unhappy with some of my replies..... I asked you not to leave on my behalf *****, because of the loss of the interesting stuff you contribute.

            Nothing nasty mean't there....and no deliberate leaverage or advantage taken by using your name..... And the reason for that was that everyone knows your real name from when you canvassed most members here to go join your own forum..... you signed off as yourself....So I saw no crime in it.... You have said here you were not too bothered......and didn't complain....which is fair enough. But pse accept I did not use your real name as a swipe at you for advantage. I may have spats on points of order....I never like being pushed around.....and I can't stand BS.....but I never hold a grudge. You were good and fair to me in the past, and I hold no animosity against you whatever.....that doesn't mean I wont argue the toss....but that wouldn't be the end of the world......and I think you are as fairminded as I in that regard.

            In other convivial situations such as chatting about family or social occasions the use of real names may be acceptable between friends.
            Of course...

            My 2c worth.
            A very fair comment, and I'm glad you posted it.

            The Mod said there are one or two who use first names;
            Here's a few I can recall off the bat, old and new.......that's how silly it is.....but the reason I was deleted....was coz I used a christian name the world knows.....and referred to your OWN website, yours not .ie or .net....the site you started and closed.

            Helen....Noel....Leemo....Ed.....Pammy.....Eileen. ...Tommie n Tina....Old Tommy.....Jimmy Mac.....Joan Mack...Maire.....Joe.....Jembo.....Domo....Dave- Boxman...Jim- Rashers...Michael-Ripost ....Liam O'Meara.....John Dorney.....John Doran.....John D (Dorney).....Raphael-Archangel.....Bang Bang-Roddy....Pauline Fayne.....Mary Lord....Pauline Fitz.....Tolka1-Paul.....Brianj.....Bridget....Captn Patch-Connor.....Deirdre.....Red Biddy-Liz.....Fitzy-John....Womblemum-Dolores....and more.........all used by themselves and others over the years.
            Last edited by DAMNTHEWEATHER; 12-07-2016, 05:46 PM.
            We'll sail be the tide....aarghhhh !!

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            • #7
              From here on in....i wish to be know as the member known as !#!

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Mykidsmom View Post
                From here on in....i wish to be know as the member known as !#!

                I am Dan Dare.........
                Here Rex!!!...Here Rex!!!.....Wuff!!!....... Wuff!!!

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                • #9
                  Lion????

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Mykidsmom View Post
                    Lion????
                    God's honest truth.....
                    Here Rex!!!...Here Rex!!!.....Wuff!!!....... Wuff!!!

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                    • #11
                      does god have truth??? since god himself is a lie?

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Mykidsmom View Post
                        does god have truth??? since god himself is a lie?

                        I believe in Dan Dare....
                        Here Rex!!!...Here Rex!!!.....Wuff!!!....... Wuff!!!

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                        • #13
                          is he the fella outa the beano?
                          or dandy?

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Mykidsmom View Post
                            is he the fella outa the beano?
                            or dandy?


                            Somerset....
                            Here Rex!!!...Here Rex!!!.....Wuff!!!....... Wuff!!!

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                            • #15
                              oh.....ok lol...change is as good as a rest though isnt it...

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